Iron On Iron

28 04 2012

“As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.” (Proverbs 27:17)

I got a call from an old friend yesterday.  It was good to hear his voice.  We walked together some years ago when we both lived in another state.

He’s a solid guy.  Honest as the day.  The type who would lay down in traffic for you and shoot you straight.  He’s one of the hardest workers I’ve ever met. He understands right and wrong.  He knows when things are black and white.  He can spot a phony a mile away and will tell him so.  A man of integrity.  A rare thing in this day of political correctness and playing it safe.

We spoke for about three hours.  As we talked, I felt that tug to return once again to values that I’ve let slip and wiggle in recent years.  He challenged me.  He’s the kind of person who would tell me to my face—rather than stab me in the back—that I have ketchup all over my necktie.  He’s a real friend.

Our interaction sharpened me, like the proverb at the top of this post.  A good friend, a true friend, challenges you to be your best.  At times they get in your face.  Not the phony friendship made of plastic love that says, in effect, “You rub my back; I’ll rub yours.”  That is détente.  There is a difference.

Those who love you—and I mean really love you—will care enough about you not to give you a pass.  They won’t say, “Hey, it’s okay” when it’s not.  They won’t rubber stamp things that are hurting you.  They won’t euphemize your failures and transgressions.

But they are real.  Kind of like One who once said, “Neither do I condemn you.  Go and sin no more.”

Do you have any real friends?

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5 responses

28 04 2012
David Kanigan

“the interaction sharpened me”…I can count on one hand (and not use all of my fingers) how many Friends can shoot straight. Great post Christian

28 04 2012
Christian Fahey

I am with you, David. About the same for me. Like diamonds, they are rare. And thus precious. Thanks for stopping by. Carpe diem!

2 05 2012
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2 05 2012

Great post! Good friends as you’ve described are rare. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

2 05 2012
Christian Fahey

They are rare indeed. Thanks for reading!

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